Just Need To Get Through This

Season 1, Episode 38. 01/13/2025

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Explanation

This episode of RAW-tism is about going through the motions and not taking the time to just live.

But Emily, You’re Married

Weddings are not the “Happily Ever After” that the stories told us our whole childhood. There is still anxiety, stress, and depression. I just hit my first depression spiral since I got married to my amazing husband, and it hit me like a piano. I was so confused about why I was so upset. I mean, I’m married, right? It’s been a little under two months, I should still be in the honeymoon phase. Yet, there I was, crying over everything and nothing, begging my new husband not to hate me. Of course, he doesn’t hate me. He’s very clear that he loves me, but I was still insecure because of my brain chemistry. 

I used to cope by thinking, “Once this thing happens, everything will be okay.” Unfortunately, no event in this world can make everything around you permanently okay. There will always be stress, strife, misunderstandings, intrusive thoughts, and loneliness. It’s just how the world is and how we are wired as humans. Don’t spend your whole life looking ahead to when you think life will be easier. Live in the here and now. Happiness is what you make of it. Be present in your life and find the little joys that present themselves every day.

Tomorrow,

Tomorrow,

I love you, tomorrow,

You’re always a day away

“Tomorrow,” from Annie (Broadway)

If you’re like me and function better when you have a goal to work toward, this is different. Giving yourself ways to feel productive as time passes is a good coping mechanism, as long as the activities aren’t detrimental to yourself or others. The difference is what you are doing and how you’re doing it. If you’re going through the motions, putting in just enough effort to get through the day, chances are that you’re going to stay in the life you are in. Nothing is going to change unless you change it. 

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Mitigating Circumstances

There are, as always, mitigating circumstances (for example, a minor trying to keep themselves together until they can move out from an abusive situation). In those instances, I’m rooting so hard for you. Let yourself get by on little amounts of effort if that’s what you need to survive. Save your big moves for when you’re free.

My advice is not for everyone; it’s what is working for me in my current life standpoint. I am not trying to put anyone down. Everyone’s feelings are valid. I am just sharing the wisdom that I’ve gathered in my strenuous 25 years of existence. I don’t know everything—not even 90-year-olds know everything—but I have learned a lot just from living my life.

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Ending Note

I’ll make more episodes in the future about enjoying life regardless of circumstances because it’s a big lesson that I have learned since the worst summer of my life (which actually became the best thing to ever happen to me). Right now, I just wanted to get the main idea across, that every moment can be a happy one if you let it. I know it sounds crazy if that’s not your experience, but trust me on this. It’s not naivety. It’s about experience and not giving any fvcks.

If you don’t take anything else away from this episode, remember that you are wanted and you are loved. Please stay in this world. I couldn’t imagine a world without you in it.

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